Identity Test

A quiz to determine other people's reaction to your image

When it comes to evaluating your image, other people are your mirror. Your image is in the eye of the beholder - and the ear of the listener. Thus, other people's reactions can tell you all you need to know about whether your image is working for you or against you.
This quiz is designed to help you interpret the signals you've been getting - and possibly ignoring - from your friends and associates. Be brutally honest with yourself in deciding whether to say "Frequently," "Occasionally," "Seldom," or "Never."

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People assume you are a lot older or younger than you really are.
People comment on a specific aspect of you appearance (eg. "I like your make-up job") instead of on your appearance as a whole (eg. "You look terrific today.").
Your clothes make you stand out from the crowd, causing people to make comments such as "I wish I had the nerve to wear an outfit like that" or "You always look so unusual, so different from everybody else."
People make negative comments about the colors you wear.
You feel other people in the room are "pulled together" better than you are.
If your co-workers run across you after hours - on the street, in a restaurant, or at a party - they don't recognize you.
Your co-workers think you are very sexy looking.
People tease you about some aspect of your appearance (clothes, makeup, posture, hairstyle, etc.)
Salesclerks ina crowded store wait on you last.
Strangers express surprise when they find out what you do for a living.
You are offered jobs well below your ability and training.
You aren't offered jobs in the occupation or industry in which you would like to work.
You don't look other people straight in the eye because it makes you uncomfortable.
People mimic your mannerisms, supposedly in jest.
Relative strangers call you "dear," "honey," "sweetie," and similar endearments.
People wince or give you an odd look when you shake hands with them.
Strangers immediately call you by your first name instead of addressing you more formally as Ms., Miss, Mrs. or Mr.
You are surprised by the violent reactions your seemingly innocuous comments elicit. Other people explain their volatile reaction with the comment: "If you could only have heard the way you sounded when you said that," or "If you could only have seen the way you looked."
Because people haven't been able to hear you distinctly, they ask "What did you say?"
People don't take what you say seriously.
People interrupt you, implying that what they have to say is much more important than what you have to say.
People tend to fidget and look away while you're speaking.
People take offense at things you've said when you thought you were complimenting them.
Even when you are communicating a relatively simple thought, people ask you to clarify what you mean.
In restaurants and other public places, your companions look uncomfortable and ask you to lower your voice.
You have trouble getting your ideas accepted at work.
When you finally meet people with whom you've had numerous telephone conversations, they express surprise: "You're Ann Williams? You're not at all what I expected!"
You suspect that the unflattering things people say in jest about your speech habits are actually true.
In situations requiring small talk, you are tongue-tied, and awkward silences develop.
Because you don't make a habit of identifying yourself at the beginning of telephone conversations, people interrupt you to ask, "Who is this please?"
People tell you you've picked the wrong time or place to bring up a certain subject.
You can't remember strangers' names after you've just been introduced.
Even when you are the host, the waiter still brings the restaurant check to your companions.
You're late for appointments.
When you want to express appreciation you pick up the telephone rather than write a thank-you note.
You have extended telephone conversations even though you have a guest sitting in the same room with you.
Your business correspondence looks sloppy (eg. filled with penned corrections, misspellings, a disregard for the usual business-letter format, etc.)
People feel that you are too self-critical and make comments like "You don't like yourself much, do you?"
You allow yourself to be put on the defensive.
You make a habit of doing things that please others even though you'd rather not do them or don't believe in them.
People advise you to broaden your interests.
You have a "yes, but" response every time anyone offers you any constructive advice.
You allow self-doubt to render you incapable of making decisions.
People ask why you are unhappy when you aren't feeling that way at all.
Although you are performing at the peak of your ability, you are passed over for promotions.
You feel that life controls you rather than vice versa.

47. Although you have plenty of leisure time, your social-engagement calendar is empty.

The men/women to whom you are attracted aren't attracted to you.
On dates, men/women comment: "You seem lost in your own thoughts."
Men/women don't call again after the first date.
At social gatherings, either you feel awkward because you are standing alone or you stick with the person you came with throughout the entire affair.

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Give yourself the following points:
Frequently 0 points
Occasionally 1 point
Seldom 2 points
Never 3 points

Now add up your score.

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less than 50 points You are desperately in need of image advice. A total image overhaul should be your first priority, starting right now.
50 to 99 points Indicates that you need help, but you can relax and improve your exterior attributes in a more leisurely manner.
100 to 125 points Above average, but not quite good enough to allow you to stop reading image improvements.
125 or more points Exceptional. You are either another Amary Wells Lawrence in terms of your overall appearance, wardrobe, speech, gestures, and poise, or self-delusional. If the latter, you are the one who will suffer as a consequence.

The statements in the quiz have been grouped so that you can determine what your greatest image liabilities are. If you scored poorly on questions 1-12, you should concentrate on improving your wardrobe and general appearance. Questions 9 - 17 focus on your comportment, poise, and body language. A low score on questions 18 - 29 indicates a weakness in speech and communication skills. You need a refresher course in manners and etiquette if you scored low in questions 30 -37. Low self-esteem and lack of motivation are your problem if you were weak in questions 38 - 46. And your personal life is a disaster area if you did poorly on questions 47 - 51.

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